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The Road to Character

In his book, The Road to Character, The New York Times columnist and bestselling author, David Brooks, challenges readers to rebalance the scales between focusing on external success—“résumé virtues”—and, instead, elevate and value core inner principles.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, Video: Let Your Conscience By Your Guide ]

The Road to Character is a reminder (just as SemperVerus is) that we must strengthen our character—our moral compass—to stay true to what is right and stay true to our aim in life.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, The Door of Leadership Swings on the Hinge of Character ]

Table of Contents

    Chapter 1: The Shift
    Chapter 2:  The Summoned Self
    Chapter 3:  Self-Conquest
    Chapter 4:  Struggle
    Chapter 5:  Self-Mastery
    Chapter 6:  Dignity
    Chapter 7:  Love
    Chapter 8:  Ordered Love
    Chapter 9:  Self-Examination
    Chapter 10:  The Big Me

[ Read the SemperVerus article, Spiritual Fitness Self-Defense: Seeing Temptation as a Threat ]

Quotes to ponder from The Road to Character

  “Character is built in the course of your inner confrontation. Character is a set of dispositions, desires, and habits that are slowly engraved during the struggle against your own weakness. You become more disciplined, considerate, and loving through a thousand small acts of self-control, sharing, service, friendship, and refined enjoyment. If you make disciplined, caring choices, you are slowly engraving certain tendencies into your mind. You are making it more likely that you will desire the right things and execute the right actions. If you make selfish, cruel, or disorganized choices, then you are slowly turning this core thing inside yourself into something that is degraded, inconstant, or fragmented. You can do harm to this core thing with nothing more than ignoble thoughts, even if you are not harming anyone else. You can elevate this core thing with an act of restraint nobody sees. If you don’t develop a coherent character in this way, life will fall to pieces sooner or later. You will become a slave to your passions. But if you do behave with habitual self-discipline, you will become constant and dependable.”

Gentle Response De-Escalation Training for Church Security Teams

Gentle Response is the organization founded by John Riley, a retired police officer and certified crisis intervention specialist with the National Anger Management Association. He and his team travel all over the United States conducting Conflict De-escalation Training seminars.

SemperVerus attended this excellent seminar, held in Immanuel Church, Holland, Michigan, May 14, 2023. With Mr. Riley’s permission, here are notes we took during that seminar and scenario training:

•   “A gentle response defuses anger” Proverbs 15:1 (MSG)

•   Conflict de-escalation: lowering the intensity of an agitated person to minimize a potentially volatile situation from becoming a critical violent incident.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, A Prayer for Church Security Team Members ]

•   Peacemaking and de-escalating people’s anger is the goal, while staying alert to your own personal and public safety. When overwhelmed, stay safe and be an expert witness.

•   Mindset Priority: Each church security team member must have a “ministry mindset” — Every contact (even eye contact) is a ministry opportunity to represent the mission of the church. Don’t let your actions be heavy-handed and damage that mission.

Medals of Honor and Valor

When you live the SemperVerus life, you decide to Stay True to what is right and Stay True to your aim in every decision you make.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, Every Small Decision Leads to Winning or Losing in Spiritual Warfare ]

When you wear our SemperVerus Brotherhood/Sisterhood wristband, it’s a helpful constant reminder that you pledge to stay true to what is right (1 Tim. 4:16) by daily choosing to live led by (Rom. 8:14), filled with (Eph. 5:18), walking by (Gal. 5:16), and in step with (Gal. 5:25) the Holy Spirit, exhibiting 13 virtues in your behavior; one of which is acting valorously (with courage).

[ Read the SemperVerus article, The Door of Leadership Swings on the Hinge of Character ]

Conducting yourself with bravery is an element of strong character, and it’s part of the third element of the five SemperVerus components—BE—which emphasizes the importance of prioritizing integrity, honesty, and general uprightness in your life. It reads:

III. Be: developing rich personal leadership character of exemplary moral and ethical quality.

Two shining examples of what it means to act with courage are the US military’s Medal of Honor and the US Department of Justice’s Medal of Valor.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, Be Like Ernest Shackleton ]

Video: Let Your Conscience By Your Guide

The name SemperVerus® is Latin for Stay True. It’s based on the Bible verse 1 Timothy 4:16 (NLT) — “Keep a close watch on how you live and on your teaching. Stay true to what is right for the sake of your own salvation and the salvation of those who hear you.”

[ Read SemperVerus articles on the subject of BE ]

The third element of the five SemperVerus components is BE, which emphasizes the importance of prioritizing integrity, honesty, and general uprightness in your life. It reads:

III. Be: developing rich personal leadership character of exemplary moral and ethical quality.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, Secure Your Base (Your Soul) ]

The fifth element of the five SemperVerus components is DO, the working out in your everyday life of the first four qualities. It reads:

V. Do: resolving to intentionally and skillfully act to accomplish positive and fruitful outcomes.

[ Read the SemperVerus article, The Door of Leadership Swings on the Hinge of Character ]

In the decisions we face every moment of every day, we stay true to what is right and stay true to our aim when we follow the Holy Spirit in our lives and keep the SemperVerus Brotherhood/Sisterhood virtues front-and-center in our mind: